It was never my intention to write this book. But
then again, getting divorced wasn’t on my “to do” list
either. My background is in nursing and management,
with twenty years of experience in these areas. My goal
for going into nursing was simple; I wanted to help people.
The goal has never changed, only my focus. I have
family law to thank for that.
My core values have always been those of fairness
and equality, whether making a decision in a healthcare
setting or buying a chocolate bar for my kids. I live by
this one rule: “What you do for one, you do for
all.”Unfortunately, in my experience, family law doesn’t
share my values. Divorce propelled me into a world
where the core values are greed and excess, along with a
“take what you want because you’ll get it anyway” attitude.
In this world, lawyers act more like coaches, training
their female students on what to say and how to act
to secure victory in court.
This book pulls back the veil of secrecy. You will
learn the truth about what really happens when the door
closes and the ex-wife and her lawyer begin to plan their
strategy. Listen as the lawyer begins to describe the
“financial buffet” that is there for the taking. Learn how
easily a woman can gain custody of a child or turn a
father’s child against him through the process known as
parental alienation. Listen in on all the private conversations
that feminists, lawyers, and ex-wives often deny
ever take place.
But this book is also about raw human emotion.
You will become an intimate part of the lives of three
men I care deeply about whom I witnessed going
through divorce firsthand. Observe these men as they
struggle to avoid the pitfalls that family law has in store
for them: poverty, bankruptcy, alienation from their children,
and even death. Feel what a father feels when he is
denied access to the child he loves or is forced to give his
last dollar to an ex when he can’t eat or pay his own
bills. Learn why lawyers, judges, and politicians are
forced to cater to feminist groups. Read the suicide note
left by a man who had everything taken away from him
because of a court order.
This book is a labour of love. For eighteen months,
I spent every evening and weekend at my computer writing
the truth. During this time, if I wasn’t writing or at
work, I was responding to the hundreds of e-mails sent
to me each week by fathers begging me to help them
make sense of the insanity they were drowning in.
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